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Vanessa Torre
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The Modern Women’s Midlife Crisis is “Quiet Quitting” Her Life

Because no one knows what to do, let alone us. — No one seems to know what to do with women once they hit midlife. This includes women in midlife. At the turn of the 20th century, women didn’t live past midlife. We now live to 85 years on average. What do we do with the 40 years we’ve gained in…

Women

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The Modern Women’s Midlife Crisis is “Quiet Quitting” Her Life
The Modern Women’s Midlife Crisis is “Quiet Quitting” Her Life
Women

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Financially Incentivizing Couplehood and Marriage Needs to Be Re-examined

The single tax is alive and well, and it’s only getting worse — I live in an area of the country that has seen an overwhelming swell in housing prices since the beginning of the pandemic. Rent followed suit. It’s flat-out weird but completely understandable. We are inundated with people fleeing Southern California in search of lower-cost housing in a still desirable location…

Relationships

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Financially Incentivizing Couplehood and Marriage Needs to Be Re-examined
Financially Incentivizing Couplehood and Marriage Needs to Be Re-examined
Relationships

6 min read


Aug 26

Please Stop Commenting on Your Friends’ Weight Loss

How simple accolades do more harm than good. — When I got divorced in 2017, I fell into a horrible depression. I have told the story many times how I lived on protein shakes for longer than I should have because cooking real food and chewing it required more energy that I could muster. Weight loss ensued. It was…

Psychology

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Please Stop Commenting on Your Friends’ Weight Loss
Please Stop Commenting on Your Friends’ Weight Loss
Psychology

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Aug 17

“Marrying Down” Benefits Men But Hurts Women

Very real reasons why some women may look to “date up.” — When I entered back into the datingsphere after my divorce, I struggled to find a quality relationship. No, really. It was a well-chronicled hellscape. Routinely, men would tell me that the reason I wasn’t finding an amazing long-lasting relationship was that I was looking for the wrong guy. They recommended…

Feminism

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“Marrying Down” Benefits Men But Hurts Women
“Marrying Down” Benefits Men But Hurts Women
Feminism

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Aug 11

How I Found My Partner After Five Excruciating Years of Dating

It did not involve manifesting, a dating app, or being set up. — After five years of post-divorce dating and learning to navigate the dating space again in my 40s, I realized that 98% of everything I was told to do to find a life partner was utter crap. It doesn’t work. It was never going to work. Last October, I met my…

Relationships

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How I Found My Partner After Five Excruciating Years of Dating
How I Found My Partner After Five Excruciating Years of Dating
Relationships

6 min read


Aug 9

“Normal” Workspaces Only Work for “Normal” People

How my not-normal brain made me fight for 25 years. — One of the hardest parts of a late-in-life diagnosis of ADHD is when you start playing the tape of your life back and see things in a way you never have. Everything starts to make sense, and it’s slightly heartbreaking. And annoying. When I play my tape, I wonder what…

Adhd

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“Normal” Workspaces Only Work for “Normal” People
“Normal” Workspaces Only Work for “Normal” People
Adhd

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Aug 7

No, I Don’t Want to “Guard My Heart”

I have earned the right to throw caution completely to the wind. — I am not a fan of prescriptive anything in my life. Loosely translated, there is no telling me what to do. I can’t stomach it anymore. Go over there with that nonsense. I have sorted my life into things that I need and things that I don’t need. Two buckets…

Midlife

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No, I Don’t Want to “Guard My Heart”
No, I Don’t Want to “Guard My Heart”
Midlife

5 min read


Aug 5

Why We Need to Reframe the Stigma of Having Roommates

A case for same-sex platonic cohabitation. — Iwill be the first to admit that I have subscribed to the belief that as a grown-ass 49-year-old woman, I have lived long enough to have earned the right to be an adult without a roommate. The last time I had a roommate, the White House was occupied by the…

Money

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Why We Need to Reframe the Stigma of Having Roommates
Why We Need to Reframe the Stigma of Having Roommates
Money

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Aug 3

Don’t Mourn the Loss of Something You Don’t Actually Want

It wasn’t what you wanted. It wasn’t what you needed. Let it go. — Since I found myself smack dab in the middle of life, acting totally surprised like I didn’t see it coming at all, I found myself taking inventory of my life. There have been more than a few nights where I found myself sitting and staring blankly at nothing and talking…

Midlife

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Don’t Mourn the Loss of Something You Don’t Actually Want
Don’t Mourn the Loss of Something You Don’t Actually Want
Midlife

5 min read


Jul 29

“Lazy Girl Jobs”: This Is Not the Revolution We’re Looking For

Be careful the term you coin. It may stick and then we’re all stuck. — Just as soon as the sun set on “Boss Babe” and “Girl Boss”, the social media sun rose on “lazy girl jobs.” Taking over TikTok at an incredible rate is the notion of seeking jobs, mainly by GenZ women, that are completely remote, low-stress, high paying, end at 5pm, and…

Feminism

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“Lazy-Girl Jobs”: This Is Not the Revolution We’re Looking For
“Lazy-Girl Jobs”: This Is Not the Revolution We’re Looking For
Feminism

6 min read

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Vanessa Torre

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Top 10 feminist writer. Writing, coaching, and relentlessly hyping women in midilfe. linktr.ee/Vanessaltorre Email: vanessa@vanessatorre.com

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