The single tax is alive and well, and it’s only getting worse — I live in an area of the country that has seen an overwhelming swell in housing prices since the beginning of the pandemic. Rent followed suit. It’s flat-out weird but completely understandable. We are inundated with people fleeing Southern California in search of lower-cost housing in a still desirable location…

Emotions and feelings are one thing. Data are another. — It’s officially been four years since my marriage ended. Four years that consisted of almost 50 first dates. Maybe a dozen of those resulted in second dates. That dozen garnered an unhealthy on-again-off-again relationship, an early pandemic boyfriend, and the relationship that broke the camel’s back. If you had asked…

An impassioned plea to show up. Literally. — There is a reality that I’m not sure most people understand and I’m of the opinion that if it became more widely known, a lot of men would be terrified and there would be a shift in the United States that would blow the roof off this place. You ready? …

We need compassion and treatment, not violence. — Aside from writing, I work as a freelancer editor. The great beauty of this is that I see a lot of academic papers on a whole myriad of topics. An editing assignment last week blew my mind. In the research I was editing, a term was mentioned that I had…

When we call it a preference, we’re using the wrong word. — The single most prevalent comment I hear from men regarding their frustrations in dating is anger and disgust connected to the idea that women want “bad boys” and will pass over the “good guys.” Of course, another ubiquitous term thrown around is the “nice guy” who, oddly, is very rarely…

There are worse things we could be, like, passive. — This morning, for my podcast, I interviewed Kathryn Finney, author of the book Build the Damn Thing: How to Succeed in Business If You’re Not a Rich, White Guy. It was the kind of conversation where you have one of those moments in the middle that you gasp because the…

There is only one reason why you are rejected: You. — I’m going to hit you right out of the gate with the TL;DR. Men, if you are being rejected, it is not because you are not a 6-foot-tall man with a large bank account. This is not the root of your rejection. There is only one reason why you are…

Does it really happen, and, if so, who does this? — There is nothing I love less than a tired, worn-out trope that actually holds no water but seems to get thrown around willy-nilly, mainly by very angry white dudes. Usually, the trope is steeped in misogyny and does nothing more than feed a narrative that men solidly buy into that…

One man reacts to the imposition of outstretching of arms. — I spent this past weekend at a concert series a few hours north of where I live. The folks I attended with are part of a sizeable group of friends. We would get together in the mornings and have coffee and mimosas. The morning after the first night, we were…