“Normal” Workspaces Only Work for “Normal” People

How my not-normal brain made me fight for 25 years.

Vanessa Torre
4 min readAug 9, 2023
Photo by Arlington Research on Unsplash — Also, a whole bag of “no goddamn way.”

One of the hardest parts of a late-in-life diagnosis of ADHD is when you start playing the tape of your life back and see things in a way you never have. Everything starts to make sense, and it’s slightly heartbreaking. And annoying.

When I play my tape, I wonder what would have happened if I had 1) known what I know now, 2) been medicated, and most importantly, 3) advocated for myself.

There is nowhere in my life that this applies more than in my previous work life. I have spent most of my life working in offices. I can definitively say that this has been a hellscape. I know now that I am not built for a normal office environment. It was never going to work.

It’s not me, corporate office. It’s you.

Of course, I feel like I had little choice in my office environment. As card- carrying members of Gen X, we pretty much assumed our lives would be spent in offices, which turned out actually to be cubicles.

Cubicles, among many other office things, are a fate worse than death for people with ADHD. They’re like the slow killing of our souls.

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Vanessa Torre

Top 10 feminist writer. Writing, coaching, and relentlessly hyping women in midilfe. linktr.ee/Vanessaltorre Email: vanessa@vanessatorre.com