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Your People May Not Be Who You Expect

How I found camaraderie with a bunch of old guys at a bar.

Vanessa Torre
3 min readJun 29, 2019
Photo by Patrick Tomasso via Unsplash

They’re loud. With every drink they get louder. There’s F-bombs. They are not the expected clientele.

Every other Friday, I go to a bar not too far from my house for a glass or two of wine. It’s gone through three owners in the last ten years. This owner has stuck. It part of a very successful group of local Phoenix bars.

At the end of the bar sits a group of old guys. Late 60’s. The rest of the bar is filled with young hipsters and working professionals just off work to start their weekend.

Maybe, from time to time, you find a new couple with a few years on them on a date early on in their relationship where they still feel the need to go out and do cool things.

Billy Joel couldn’t create a better scene.

I don’t know how I started talking to the guys at the end of the bar. It just happened. When I’m feeling extroverted, I’m all in. I roll the dice big.

I like people who are consistent. I like regulars and I like being one of them. Every single time I have stopped by the Linger Longer Lounge, there they are. A bunch of…

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Vanessa Torre
Vanessa Torre

Written by Vanessa Torre

Top 10 feminist writer. Writing, coaching, and relentlessly hyping women in midilfe. linktr.ee/Vanessaltorre Email: vanessa@vanessatorre.com

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