Yes, Ladies, You Do Have the Audacity

There are worse things we could be, like, passive.

Vanessa Torre

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This morning, for my podcast, I interviewed Kathryn Finney, author of the book Build the Damn Thing: How to Succeed in Business If You’re Not a Rich, White Guy. It was the kind of conversation where you have one of those moments in the middle that you gasp because the whole world suddenly makes sense. I live for that.

Kathryn’s book focuses on the entrepreneurial world being comprised of two types of people: Builders and Entitleds. Ladies, I will give you one guess as to what group we’re in. Also, there’s a hierarchy in the Builder group. Minority men, then white women, then minority women.

I will tell you that Kathryn, who as a Builder has been standing in the back of the line her whole life like she’s waiting to get on Space Mountain feeling like Disneyland is gonna close, has figured the god damn system out!

I, of course, have not figured the system out. I’m still in line for Space Mountain. Actually, I’ve been standing in line for Space Mountain when I really want to be on the Matterhorn. Also, do these rides even exist anymore? I’m old, and Disneyland makes my skin crawl. I’m out of touch.

That whole paragraph is a testament to how little I know about what I am doing with my life. But something shifted today.

We were talking about the part in Kathryn’s book where she says that if we want to be successful as Builders, we need to act like Entitleds. We referred to it as “carrying yourself with the confidence of a mediocre White man.” Ironically, I am literally cross-stitching this into a sampler currently.

I have spent the last couple of months, since I abandoned my career in pursuit of happiness via my creative outlets, absolutely infuriated at the number of entitled young, white dudes making serious bank by selling bullshit and being douchey about it.

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Vanessa Torre

Top 10 feminist writer. Writing, coaching, and relentlessly hyping women in midilfe. linktr.ee/Vanessaltorre Email: vanessa@vanessatorre.com