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When Your Partner Has a Crazy Amount of Energy
A few Do’s and Don’ts of being with someone who’s continually moving.
I’m fairly certain I’m dating the Energizer Bunny. Last week, he got up at dawn’s early light and went mountain bike riding, then he and his son went skateboarding in the afternoon, then he went on a night bike ride. I have no idea how he does all of this. It confounds me.
I’m an active person in my own right but I also have the innate ability to slow myself down from an eight to a three pretty successfully. I love lifting weights but cardio and I have a very tumultuous relationship. It’s also summer and 115 degrees outside. That’s a hard no.
There are upsides to dating a highly active person. For one, the man is smoking hot and looks like a guy who rides a mountain bike like it’s his job. I enjoy this immensely.
The downside is that we have to learn to balance activity to keep us going in the same direction. I’m not keen on the guy pedaling out of my life because we can’t figure out energy levels. We both think the other is worth a little adjustment.
The good news is that it’s pretty easy. Like any other part of a relationship, it takes conversation and compromise.
Do: Plan active time together.
Chris and I are heading out of town this weekend for our first vacation together. After stepping on a piece of glass last weekend, I let him know I woke up today with my foot nearly back to normal.
It was met with a reply that “now we’ll be able to run and jump and play all over Cottonwood and Jerome!” Oh boy. What did I just do? Does he not understand that vacations mean rest?
Part of the weekend planning has entailed making sure we get the rest we're in dire need of but that we are still staying active. It’s the only way for both of us have our needs met and ensure our vacation isn’t one-sided.
