When Happiness Does the Heavy Lifting

You are not a passive participant in your own joy.

This kid. This kid is winning at life!

There’s a problem I have with that. It means we’re passive. I feel like that’s a really half-assed way to be happy.

I don’t know about you, but I think it’s about time that I took an active role in the happiness in my life. Maybe that’s what’s missing. Honestly, I don’t know that I’ve had much skin in the game.

I think there’s something to be said about moving through life with a childlike sense of wonder. Take a minute and watch kids. Their ability to siphon as much joy out of something as humanly possible is amazing.

I had a friend who had to remind herself, when her kids were very little, to not get impatient with them because they were full of wonder. She wanted to let them enjoy that instead of hurrying them along the way because she had someplace to be. As adults, we always have someplace to be, don’t we?

I think there’s a key to happiness in here. There are simple pleasures all around us. This is where our passive role in our own joy ends.

Do you know what I really love? Belgian waffles. I. Love. Belgian. Waffles. Yet, I never have them. I even have a Belgian waffle maker. I have two different kinds of Belgian waffle mix in my home right now. Why I don’t do something so simple as to make myself waffles for breakfast I cannot, for the life of me, figure out. It would make me immensely happy!

I have neither the time, nor the energy, to be judged for putting sprinkles on my breakfast.

I’m reclaiming the joy of small things. Everyday things. Things I forgot I loved. I’m putting sprinkles on everything. Every damn thing.

Be a kid again. It’s okay. You have permission. You give it to yourself.

I don’t care what it looks like but, by God, I want to know about it. I want your joy to give me joy. What was the last simple thing that you took pleasure in? Tell me about it. Let me soak that in.

Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

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