We’re Not Going to Pity the Rejected Men

There is only one reason why you are rejected: You.

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I’m going to hit you right out of the gate with the TL;DR. Men, if you are being rejected, it is not because you are not a 6-foot-tall man with a large bank account. This is not the root of your rejection. There is only one reason why you are rejected: You. And I’m not going to feel sorry for you.

Before the entire manosphere comes unglued over what I just said, let me clarify some facts and information about me to prevent people from drawing their own conclusions.

I am twice divorced. When it comes to choosing partners, marrying them, and staying married, Joey from Friends has more success with spinoffs than I do with marriages.

I have been divorced for almost five years. In that time, my dating history (yeah, I really like data) looks like this:

• I have had first dates with 44 men.
• Of those, 25% (11) proceeded to a second date.
• Of those 11, 45% (5) proceeded to more than three dates and some steady dating.
• Of those five, four rejected me. One of them is someone I am currently dating. There will be more…