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This Is the Summer I Only Date Nice Guys
There is a line that needs to be drawn in the sand here.
If there is one battle that has been fought in the dating arena for longer than is reasonable, it’s the struggle women have with dating the nice guy. It’s been dissected nine ways to Sunday and I think we can officially say we’ve overthought this. I am included in this “we.”
To be clear, I need to note that I fully understand that there are two types of nice guys. One is a self-proclaimed nice guy who isn’t one. He just uses that persona because he thinks it will get him the girl. The minute he does, he will stop being nice. The second is the guy who is just genuinely…nice. He comes by it honestly and it’s just who he is.
I am only talking about the latter. I do not hold space for the former.
I have been doing solid work on myself lately, with the help of a trusty therapist or two. For the last five years, I have found myself dating people who turn out to be self-centered, emotionally bankrupt men who hurt me. In a nutshell, they’re not nice people.
I have gotten into a cycle of men who hold back, give very little, and take more than their share. I have done all of the emotional heavy lifting. And, I’m pretty much over it.
There is no reason for a…
