The Dark Side of Being a People Pleaser

How being a giver nearly wrecked me

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If someone’s not happy with me, I have no value to them. I am useless.

Actually maintaining a friendship sometimes felt like someone tied my hands and feet and threw me in a pool. A complete struggle.

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It trained me to be a doormat. To give as much as I could and accept even the smallest in return. As long as she was happy with me, I was her friend.

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I have spent years trying to make other people happy in hope that they would see me as wonderful and deserving of their giving. Ask me how many times that worked.

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I’ve tried too hard. I’ve drowned the garden and washed everything away.

Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

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