Oh, when you have that realization that not hanging on someone’s every word is liberating, it’s amazing! Interestingly, most of the after thought men in the piece have moved on. I didn’t mind. I wasn’t perturbed. I acknowledge and moved on quickly.
One of them is a man I was in a relationship that both of us killed by overthinking. It’s amazing how different we act toward each other. Contact is a choice and a want, not an expectation. It’s joyful. If I don’t hear from him, I read. I write. I play music. I don’t do it to busy my mind so I don’t think about the next text. I do it because I want to. It’s lovely.