No, it's not weaponized incompetence. If you had spoken up and asked her to do it for you to help you and she acted incapable of doing it or intentionally messed it up so she could point to it as an out for ever having to do it again, that would be weaponized incompetence. That does not seem to be the case.

Weaponized incompetence is strategically using the inability to do something ANY reasonable person should be able to do as a means of not having to do it. It's the domestic version of playing dumb.

Also, I do not forget all the things I do around the house because I do them. I am not married. I do not have a husband to brandish a socket wrench. I brandish the socket wrench. I cut down the tree with the chainsaw. I fix the irrigation repair. I change the air filters.

The inherent issue I see with the response I hear from men about how much they do around the house is that a drywall repair is not a daily occurrence. Neither is replacing woodwork, or landscaping. Dishes, cooking, kids' baths, lunch making. The hours spent on housework that falls in the laps of women are far greater than the time men spend on their "share" and all the data here supports that.