No. And I don’t feel sympathy for women in the same situation.

The 20-year-old — Is he medicated? Is he in therapy? Is he reading about what he experiences to understand it and learn and find ways to talk to people (read: women)? How is he approaching them? Who is he choosing?

The short ugly man — It’s not his height and his looks, it’s his approach. How is he meeting these women?

The 18-year-old — Swiping on 1000 women means he is not wholeheartedly dating with intention. He does not know what he wants, how to look for it, and, how to attract it. When you don’t know these things, you don’t know how to put out the right things to attract the right people. I see so many dating profiles with BASIC MINIMUM effort. Men swipe on EVERYONE and women swipe on few. He has not learned that. He needs to learn that.

My point is that men can control much more than they think about how attraction works. But, I see an army of men that would rather blame the woman not choosing them than to blame themselves who what they’re doing wrong and learn how to date better.