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My Trust Issues Are Valid

They’re deeply rooted and not necessarily my fault.

Vanessa Torre
4 min readDec 17, 2019
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We love to criticize people because of their experiences. We act as though everybody should be made of iron and nothing should affect them. We should be super humans that come out of every experience we have totally unscathed. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen.

I’ve done a lot of work on myself over the last few years. I’ve spent hundreds of dollars on therapy co-pays. I’ve read a myriad of personal development books. I’ve meditated. I’ve made lists of things I want to work on and taken action to get items off that list. I still have issues. It’s because I’m human.

Our reality is that no matter how hard we work on ourselves there will always be situations that cause us to take one step forward and two steps back. There are some things that no matter how hard we try to shake them, they linger. For me, I’ve whittled this down to one problem: I have trust issues.

I’ve been lied to. I’ve had people disguise intentions in order to manipulate me. I’ve had people omit details in order to gain my trust and then break it. I had have more promises made to me and never kept than I care to count.

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Vanessa Torre
Vanessa Torre

Written by Vanessa Torre

Top 10 feminist writer. Writing, coaching, and relentlessly hyping women in midilfe. linktr.ee/Vanessaltorre Email: vanessa@vanessatorre.com

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