It’s a mind fuck, right? It’s funny that we label the attentive guy who texts us every 15 minutes with a negative trait (codependency). It we’ll excuse the asshole who gives us no one attention. We’ll talk with the asshole until we’re blue in the face about our needs only to have them not met. But, we don’t have the “I like you but you’re smothering me” conversation with the attentive guy. I suspect it’s because he’ll actually LISTEN and chill the F out and then what do we do?