I would venture to say that is a perspective that certainly takes my male counterparts into account. However, that playing field has been far from level for quite some time. I think, historically, women’s needs have been completely irrelevant. Read any chapter of Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique and you’ll see that. I think the playing field has started to level and it makes people uncomfortable. I think women, myself included, have finally realized we don’t have to settle. We have lived for ages with the stigma of the old spinster aunt while a bachelor of 40 years carried mystery. Now, we’re saying we want more and we deserve more. Here’s the difference. We HAVE become picky. I think your description of the “perfect male” is an illusion and not one drummed up by women. I love a man who has needs. Bring ’em on! Let’s talk about that shit. And hard to get? Pass. I have better ways to get my cardio in than chasing men.
I think what it boils down to is this: Men don’t understand what women want and need them to be because they have listened to a male driven world tell them what women want and need instead of listening to…women.