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I Relied Solely on the “Meet-Cute” for Nine Months
I wanted to see if the tangible world held any space for me.
Nine months ago, after a breakup, I decided to wade back into the dating pool by doing the same thing I had done time and time again. I redownloaded dating apps.
I hold very much true the fact that if you download a dating app and you are not in a good space, you are going to know right away. Last summer, I was not in a good space. Every single profile that I saw annoyed me. The entire process seemed exhausting. I was bitter, I was jaded, I was not open.
So, I did what was the right thing to do. I removed myself from the online dating market because not only did I feel like my energy was not being put to good use, but I didn’t think that I was going to be able to show up in the online space in any way that was going to serve anyone well. Not the people I dated. Not me.
Like so many other people, I gave up and I quit the dating apps. I have been very adamant this entire time that it is not that I have given up on dating. It’s that I gave up on an electronic device trying to find me that date. There is a difference.
What I did was put all of my faith into the meet-cute. I had come to understand that finding someone is nothing more than dumb luck. It is the…