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I Love Myself, Know Myself and Have Hobbies

So, can you please stop inferring that I’m not okay?

Vanessa Torre
4 min readJan 27, 2020
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I’m not sure when divorced or otherwise uncoupled people became the least actualized people on the planet. There’s an idea going around that we have a lot of personal growth to do.

Numerous well-intended people have given me the age-old advice that instead of trying to date and find a partner, I should spend my time learning to love myself, discovering myself and finding new and interesting hobbies.

I appreciate that these folks care about me and want to see me happy. I am happy.

Just because my marriage didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean that I’m a completely lost human being. It just means that I’m single and that, instead of a human being, I sleep next to seven throw pillows and a Chihuahua.

When I got married, I relinquished my maiden name but I didn’t stop growing as a person. Actually, my divorce is indicative of having grown as a person over the years. My divorce is not a trigger for self-exploration, it’s a result of it.

Ending my marriage was a decision that came at the end a period of digging deep and…

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Vanessa Torre
Vanessa Torre

Written by Vanessa Torre

Top 10 feminist writer. Writing, coaching, and relentlessly hyping women in midilfe. linktr.ee/Vanessaltorre Email: vanessa@vanessatorre.com

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