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I Love Myself, Know Myself and Have Hobbies
So, can you please stop inferring that I’m not okay?
I’m not sure when divorced or otherwise uncoupled people became the least actualized people on the planet. There’s an idea going around that we have a lot of personal growth to do.
Numerous well-intended people have given me the age-old advice that instead of trying to date and find a partner, I should spend my time learning to love myself, discovering myself and finding new and interesting hobbies.
I appreciate that these folks care about me and want to see me happy. I am happy.
Just because my marriage didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean that I’m a completely lost human being. It just means that I’m single and that, instead of a human being, I sleep next to seven throw pillows and a Chihuahua.
When I got married, I relinquished my maiden name but I didn’t stop growing as a person. Actually, my divorce is indicative of having grown as a person over the years. My divorce is not a trigger for self-exploration, it’s a result of it.
Ending my marriage was a decision that came at the end a period of digging deep and…