I love all of this. You nailed it. Women DO have that fear of coming across as needy or demanding or clingy or whatever else.
I would be a whole lot less needy if I had no needs. But I have a bunch and I want them to be met. Expecting them to be met is just what you said - boundaries.
I took it a step further and told my BF of about 4 months that I love him last weekend. He looked a little taken aback and I immediately let him of the hook that he didn't say it back and that I needed to let that tiger out of the cage but he can keep his in the cage. No big deal. My feelings are mine. It felt good to be a little fearless.