I firmly believe that the best help we can give someone is to assist in the discovery. I read an article recently that even psychologist is areas where tough love was the norm are now saying it is a tactic that should rarely be used. Addiction was an example used. Families frequently resort to tough love to get an addict into recovery or rehab and it can horrible backfire. The lesson these experts were giving was “don’t do it!” If you truly feel it’s necessary for the safety of the person, don’t do it without the help of a psychologist specifically trained in how to handle an intervention. That made total sense to me.