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I Didn’t Think I Needed Dating Rules Until I Did
Understanding dating rules vs. boundaries could have saved me some heartache.
For quite some time I have held two main thoughts regarding dating. The first is that the most important act of self-care you can exercise is the creating of boundaries. Second, all dating rules are absolute crap and should be avoided.
Turns out I was only half right. Which half was right? Yes.
Before diving back into dating after a nine-month respite, I promised myself that I would create boundaries and that I would hold them like a mother fucker.
I was so amazingly optimistic upon my return. I downloaded dating apps again and swiped with intention, creating personal filters. I was open-minded and hopeful.
I felt in control and like my mental health and heart were going to be well preserved. I wanted to stand firm in my own knowing and to be unfaltering in understanding my worth. I promise myself I would not let myself get hurt again.
Fast forward 90 days. I got hurt. Horribly. The relationship ended with him intentionally breaking through my one solid boundary like he was running across a finish line tape. There was even a victory dance involved.
