I am so sorry if that was the main take away you walked away with. I'm not sure what you mean by "that sort of guy." Women want the sort of man who doesn't lie, doesn't cheat her or any other system, can take care of his finances, and exhibits emotional maturity. It's the last one that is the sticking point. Everything stems off of the last one. Sadly, most men are taught that the most important thing in life is the boring job. So when most of women's standards relate to emotional behavior, you guys are stuck. But, you CAN fix that.