I am so glad I found this! And I did so organically because I was obviously drawn right in to your headline. And THANK YOU for the kind words. I have been ruminating on this for such a long time since I wrote that article. And you make amazingly good points here. The context of the work environment hits. No doubt. And I had never considered that. I strongly feel that people who can effectively manage others have a quality that makes them a good partner. They are, indeed, responsible for others. It's like the saying that people don't quit jobs, they quit bosses. I didn't quit my marriages, I quit my husband. Thank you for writing this and for your introspection.