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How Do You Reconcile “You’re Just Not My Person?”
It doesn’t matter which side of this statement you’re on. It’s hard.
Technically speaking, it was our fifth date. Of course, there were three years between our first and second date so the timeline is a little weird, to begin with. So, maybe it was our fourth date. It really doesn’t matter.
There was a crossroads I found myself at that night. I saw it coming.
I’m not sure what compelled me to connect with him a second time other than the last three years seemed to have done him well. I had grown as a person, too. I have more of an idea of what I want. He’s independent. His solo holiday pictures in Cabo last year back that up.
As much as I enjoy this man’s company and find him attractive (he’s intriguingly handsome) there is something missing. I feel it. Horribly and deeply. Just. Missing. It is incredibly difficult for me to reconcile. He’s just not my person and I knew it.
As we all know, I am pretty picky. I don’t date for sport as I find that disingenuous and a waste of other people’s time. I don’t date for entertainment as I have plenty of things to fill my days and nights with.
So, when I earnestly put effort toward something and it doesn’t work out, I end up disappointed. With this…
