Here’s the issue with your comment. We’re not talking about how men feel in the quiet moments of the solitude of their own homes. I am not saying that men don’t FEEL shame as caused by their OWN actions. They may be taken for a ride by a young, pretty thing and feel horrible about it. I understand and recognize that.

What I am talking about is victim shaming. Victim shaming happens at the hands of someone else. It is a public act, mainly performed by various institutions, from media to entertainment industries. This is where we don’t see the shame happen. It’s one thing to feel internal shame for your own actions. It’s another to have it paraded around town.

And do what so many men do when I make a point a particular topic. You counter it but bringing up the “oh, but woe to the white man” argument as though one instance automatically justifies or negates the other. It doesn’t work that way.

The Vanity Fair article is an example of that. It has NOTHING to do with the sympathy train that rolls out for sugar daddies. The article has an amazing perspective and I agree with it 100%. I am for equality. In this case, the equality needs to bend to the boys. Surprised I said that? Of course you are. Because you painted all my views as “wacky” and assume what I believe. You, sir, do not understand equality. You can’t have outrage over the inequality of the lack of acknowledgement of the boys and NOT have outrage about the multitude of inequalities girls face. If you want equality, you want equality. If you only want equality for boys, it’s misogyny.

And, hand to God, if I here one more damn time about how we should feel sorry for 30 year old men who can’t get laid, I’m going to lose my damn mind. There is one reason why these men can’t get laid and one reason only. The fact that they can’t see that is the exact proof of the one reason. More on that later.

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