Forgiveness Is a Gift, But Does It Need to Be Spoken?

Who is owed what isn’t always clear.

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For me, forgiveness tends to be a quiet, solitary act. It often takes me a while to get there and when I do it’s from a road I’ve paved with my own soul searching that had little to do with any words or actions on the part of the forgiven.

Because of this, I question how much forgiveness needs to be spoken and how much we should just let rest. How much of the act of forgiving someone is for us and how much is for the forgiven?

When remorse steps in, it changes the landscape. It’s one thing to offer forgiveness. It’s another to seek it out.

Forgiveness is a gift. It’s greatness is second only to one thing: a heartfelt, sincere apology. One that’s truly meant with remorse and actualization.

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Forgiveness is for the forgiven, not the forgiver. Once we get to the point of letting go of something, we should do just that. We’ve done our part. What happens next should have no bearing on how we feel about it anymore.

Forgiving someone doesn’t make you the bigger person. It makes you an empathetic human being. It’s not a competition. No one gets to win.

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