Don’t be fearful! I don’t respond well to personal attacks. This is your perspective and perfectly valid. Not an attack :) What “others” seem to have missed is that this is a preference of mine based on the value I put on my time and my energy. I don’t have a lot of time. 10 hours commuting, 45–50 hours for a day job, 20 hours for a writing job, single mom, 4 gym sessions a week, friends and a need to actually spend quiet time by myself. If I dated three guys trying to figure out if I want to keep them around, it would take months and months. I am not going to waste the time of three men or myself in the name of tossing monogamy out to the curb.

I wouldn’t consider myself a serial monogamist. I am a good read as to whether I will get along with someone. Also, I have no problem being alone. I would rather dig in and spend four dates with one person over the course of two months than spend four dates with three guys over the course of six months.

After two divorces, I know when to walk away and I’m find doing it.

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