Again, the point of "incompetence" is being missed here. You not liking to cook is not an issue. If you don't like it, don't do it. It doesn't mean you CAN'T do it. You just prefer not to. Incompetence is not part of that discussion.

What would be weaponized incompetence was if every single time your husband asked you to cook something or help in the kitchen you either feigned incompetence or burned or ruined what it was so that you never had to do it again and it all fell on him. It is the age old story of the man dying all the white pink with a red sock and never having to do laundry again.

Every relationship requires negotiation and communication about certain things. Household chores are one of them. If you don't like to cook and don't want to do it, then that discussion needs to be had as a couple. Either he cooks or you increase your household budget to increase dinners out more.

As to the research, did you read the whole article? Did you know that the underlined parts are hyperlinks? My research is not asking bitter women. My research that you put in air quotes is from The Bureau of Labor Statistics, The Institute for Women's Policy Research, the US Census, Pew Research, Cigna, and the American Journal of Sociology.